MONDAY 2 APRIL 2012

EMAIL…
From: Juli712736 <juli712736@aol.com>
To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com
Sent: Monday, 2 April 2012, 12:43
Subject: Re: hiiiii

Dear Kate,

Sorry I took so long to reply. I had so many emails that I missed yours. Thank-you for the most beautiful and generous gifts to Isabella. She really enjoyed talking with you too yesterday on the 'phone. Do not ever worry about needing to get Isabella things, she knows you love her and she valuses your presences utterly in her life, you are like her family - although obviously not in terms of passport issues!  The photo-gallery Gotti created was intensely moving and for me, like watching a stranger. I simply only have an emotional knowledge of her as she is. What a determined toddler she was, especially that video of the swimming pool in the back garden - so bossy!

Over summer we are definitely away 29th July to 11th August - I know that. It's a very kind offer for helping out, I appreciate it. We are away 3rd-11th April in the Dead Sea in Jordan to have some healing....

All love,

Deirdre and Isabella


SUNDAY 17 JUNE 2012

EMAIL…
From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>
To: Deidre Osbourne <juli712736@aol.com>
Sent: Sun, 17 Jun 2012 13:15
Subject: hi Deirdre

hi Deirdre

hope you are well!

As Gotti probably explained I had to cancel the previously planned trip to London because of work, I am doing music for this film and things went a bit topsy-turvy, but all good now!

I had a lovely skype call with isabella last week when she stayed at Gotti's, she is such a clever and nice girl.

I was wondering if there is any time in July you would need someone to mind Isabella?

If so please let me know as I am planning to come over to London and would love to take care of her and spend time with her. 

All the best

Kate x

 

EMAIL…
From: Juli712736 <juli712736@aol.com>
To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com
Sent: Sunday, 17 June 2012, 15:26
Subject: Re: hi Deirdre

Dear Kate,

Naughty Gotti passes nothing on to you! I told him the dates and everything the week before last as I have had injured hands and cannot type without pain!

Anyway, if you were able to look after Isabella from 13th July onwards any time up until the 28th that would be such a help and I know she would have great fun too. I am so drowning in four books (unwritten but past their deadlines) due to the two accidents last year, and then the bullying at work, and then the new degenerative condition of my thumb on the hand I write with. So if I could immerse myself for as long as you can offer over that time in being able to work in the library to catch up, that would be a godsend.

Brevity due to hand pain and love to you and your mother,

D x0x


TUESDAY 19 JUNE 2012

EMAIL…
From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>
To: Deidre Osbourne <juli712736@aol.com>
Sent: Tue, 19 Jun 2012 14:39
Subject: hey

so like I wrote yesterday I can definitely take care of Isabella from 13th July for a week.!

Can you tell me a little bit of your plans, are you going away or staying in London?

Would I stay with you or come everyday at a certain time?

I also wanted to propose to you that I can take Isabella to Norway for a week after a week in London, lets say from the 20th to the 28th july.

I would of course pay all flights and expenses, as I am able to now as they are cheap and I'm earning more, and I would accompany her both ways from door to door.

All I would need is a document from you stating that I am allowed to take her abroad and back. But I understand this is a sensitive issue and I am only asking because I think Isabella would have a great time at our summerhouse by the sea as it is in nature and so many fun things we could do there, Rikke and Aleksander and my mum will be there too.

But I totally understand and respect if you think it is too far. I just thought I'd ask since she was travelling in France with Susanne and Russel last year and that went well.

If you are not so keen on that idea I will see if I can have her slightly longer than the 20.july. in London. when do you need to know by?

All the best and really looking forward to seeing both of you !

Kate x

 

EMAIL…
From: Juli712736 <juli712736@aol.com>
To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com
Sent: Tuesday, 19 June 2012, 18:07
Subject: Re: hey

Dear Kate,

Thank-you for being able to look after Isabella for the week in London, that will be a big help. We probably leave on the 28th for our holiday so the second part is not possible alas. Isabella is also a bit young to be away from me abroad still.

She will be able to see some friends in London and go to the Holiday Play Centre for a few days that second week. I'm really grateful you can do it and if you would like to stay for the week that's fine - as long as I can work!

Deirdre x0x

 

EMAIL…
From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>
To: Deidre Osbourne <juli712736@aol.com>
Sent: Tue, 19 Jun 2012 21:05
Subject: Re: hey

ok great !

I will be coming to London the 9th July to work with Guy for a few days so I'll start by staying with him and then see if I should sleep over at yours a couple of nights while I take care of Isabella.

I'm really looking forward to it  :-)

see you in July ! and I'll take Isabella from 13th.

just call me if there is anything +47 988 02799

Kate x

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: "Juli712736@aol.com" <Juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Thursday, 21 June 2012, 18:08

Subject: Re: hey

 

That's great and thank-you!

 

D x0x

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Deidre Osbourne <juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Tue, 26 Jun 2012 15:49

Subject: Travelling with Isabella

 

hey Deirdre

 

So I called the identity and passport service and they informed me that all I need from you to take Isabella to Norway is a letter of consent.

Thats all I need, and they even said it is unlikely I will have to show it, but just in case.

 

I also called the Norwegian Embassy in London and they also recommended that you would take your passport to the police station and get a copy of it and a verification stamp from them on it, and I take that with me when I travel with Isabella.

 

So:

 

1.letter of consent

2.copy of parent's passport with verification stamp from police station.

 

If it makes no difference for you it would be better to take her to norway from the 17th or 18.july or so, I can take care of her from 13-28 in any case wherever we are, but we'll stay in London for a bit in the beginning.

 

very excited about this !

 

Kate x

 

 

EMAIL…

From: "Juli712736@aol.com" <Juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Tuesday, 26 June 2012, 21:13

Subject: Re: Traveling with Isabella

 

All fine except dates outside UK as she needs to practise piano one hour a day as she has an exam and also trumpet and piano lessons. As she will be in France for 2 weeks, that would mean nearly 4 weeks without practise or lessons. She will need to be back on 27th as we have to leave early 29th and will need to do washing etc and organise her things if that's okay?

 

D x0x

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Deidre Osbourne <juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Wed, 27 Jun 2012 18:11

Subject: Re: Travelling with Isabella

 

ok,

I have checked flights and I am wondering if it is ok for us to go from 17th or 18th July and come back on the 26th. If you leave early 29th it might be nice to come back 26th if its an evening flight, so she has 2 days at home before the next trip.

 

what do you think?

 

Is it ok to be away from 17th or 18th till the 26th July?

 

I just wanna make sure all the dates are ok before i buy the flights.

 

kate x

 

 

From: "Juli712736@aol.com" <Juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Thursday, 28 June 2012, 11:16

Subject: Re: Traveling with Isabella

 

Dear Kate,

 

The 18th - 26th then is best as Isabella gets upset when she is away from me for too long. Also, there will be a border check in UK as you are not the same family and travelling on different passports so I will have to find out from UK border control what is needed. I also thought you could send Isabella back unaccompanied on the 26th or 27th so I can meet her at the airport to save you returning to London.

 

I@m at a conference until Friday evening now.

D x0x

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Deidre Osbourne <juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Sat, 30 Jun 2012 12:50

Subject: Travelling with Isabella

 

Hi Deirdre

 

I have now bought the flights for Isabella and me to Oslo and back to London.

18.july-27.july.

 

Here are the flight times:

 

London to Oslo 18.July:

09:10 London-Gatwick

12:20 Oslo-Gardermoen           18. jul 2012

DY1303 - Lavpris

 

Oslo to London 27.July:

12:25 Oslo-Gardermoen

13:45 London-Gatwick  27. jul 2012

DY1306 - Lavpris

 

all the best

 

Kate xxx

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: "Juli712736@aol.com" <Juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Saturday, 30 June 2012, 17:26

Subject: Re: Flight to Oslo and back

 

Dear Kate,

 

That's very generous of you, but it's a little longer than we'd agreed which was a week not ten days. It might not seem much difference to you but we had agreed a week and a few days extra makes a great difference to a child of her age.

 

Because of this, it will be the only time she can do this as an exception until she is 16 unless it is with my own family.

 

Would it be okay to let me know what you are planning to do with Isabella? She said she had been shown photos of a boat and a house or something. You'll appreciate I need to know exactly where she will be and what she will be doing. If she does go in a boat, is there a life jacket? Will she be travelling in a car? What I ask for is that you do not make plans with Isabella without consulting me first as seems to often happen when you and Gotti suggest things to her. She is only ten and my responsibility until she is 18 in all respects.

 

I am rather concerned at the boundary moving that often happens when we agree something and therefore, I hope you will not do anything in Norway which we have not agreed upon as my daughter will be so far away from any family and in a country where she does not speak the language or know anyone if difficulties were to arise.

 

It would be preferable to speak about this not email please.

 

Deirdre x0x

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Juli712736 <Juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Tue, 3 Jul 2012 15:04

Subject: Re: Flight to Oslo and back

 

Hi

 

What would you like me to do Deirdre?

I can change the flights so it is 7 days only.

 

kate xxx

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: Juli712736 <juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Tuesday, 3 July 2012, 16:40

Subject: Re: Flight to Oslo and back

 

Leave as is Kate.

 

Deirdre

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Juli712736 <Juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Sat, 7 Jul 2012 18:27

Subject: Re: Flight to Oslo and back

 

ok great,

then I take it that you are comfortable with these dates.

They can easily be changed at any time.

 

I am coming to London tomorrow, Sunday, (not yesterday Friday as I thought)

 

I will see you a lot from the 13th when I take care of Isabella in London so we will have plenty of time to talk about what Isabella and I can do in Norway, and make sure you are comfortable with everything.

 

Speak to you soon! :-)

 

Kate xxx

 

 

EMAIL…

From: "Juli712736@aol.com" <Juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Saturday, 7 July 2012, 20:00

Subject: Re: Flight to Oslo and back

 

Goodluck with your work with Guy!

 

D x0x

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Juli712736 <Juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Wed, 11 Jul 2012 16:49

Subject: Re: Flight to Oslo and back

 

Hey Deirdre

 

When shall I be at yours on Friday?

 

I was also thinking of taking her to the Free Wayne McGregor dance

piece on Trafalgar Sq. on Saturday at 4:30pm if it fits with you.

 

See you soon!

 

Kate xxx

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: "Juli712736@aol.com" <Juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Wednesday, 11 July 2012, 18:00

Subject: Re: coming to London

 

Dear Kate,

 

Would 9.30 be okay on Friday? I have keys to lend you.

 

However, Isabella's friend Isabel is leaving the UK permanently and Friday pm

will be the only time the two girls can get together to play and say good-bye.

Will this be okay?

 

The Saturday event sounds marvellous.

I have to get an official document signed by a lawyer or notary before you can take Isabella out of the country plus permission for medical treatment. I'll have to ask my friend Jen who's a lawyer to do this.

It is not as the person in Norway told you. As you do not have the same name and are not a parent or guardian, there could be problems leaving the UK if I don't have this.

Therefore I will need your full name as it appears on your passport, date of issue, place of issue, flight details and address in Norway please to complete the form first.

 

On Tuesday Isabella has an hour piano lesson at 11am and then her last tennis lesson of the term at 5.45pm for an hour - is this also okay?

 

I hope your music is going as you want it to,

 

Deirdre

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Juli712736 <Juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Tue, 17 Jul 2012 20:21

Subject: Re: Flight to Oslo and back

 

hi Deirdre

 

are you able to print our flight tickets for tomorrow?

 

2 documents attached in this email

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: "Juli712736@aol.com" <Juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Wednesday, 18 July 2012, 15:15

Subject: Re: Can you print our flight tickets?

 

Dear Kate,

 

I only saw this today. It's always best to telephone me as I only check emails once a day or every couple of days on my home email.

 

Deirdre

 

 

EMAIL…

From: Juli712736@aol.com

Subject: You lied to me

Date: 26 July 2012 13:06

To: gotti@continentica.com

 

Dear Gotti,

It is clear now that you lied to me about your trip to Norway. You had said it was due to you going to meetings. As I have previously told Kate neither of you will be taking Isabella anywhere in future. I cannot trust you. It is inappropriate to "change" plans and tell her this as though I, Isabella's mother, do not actually feature in her welfare.

While I remain grateful for all of the help and care and love you have shown to Isabella, there is clearly a problem in Kate thinking she is somehow Isabella's parent and you going along with this. It has been observed by other people over the years - not just me - who have voiced concerns to me about it.

I am very angry about this latest manipulation. As I do not actually have exact arrival information from you, I have no idea when my daughter is being brought back tomorrow. I shall see you whenever it is you return.

Deirdre

 

 

EMAIL…

From: Gotti Sigurdarson gotti@continentica.com

Subject: Re: You lied to me

Date: 27 July 2012 10:32

To: Juli712736@aol.com

 

I am absolutely baffled by your email. I just don't understand how you've come to the conclusion I have been lying to you??

I had a meeting to attend when I came here.

What is it exactly that I supposedly lied to you about?

We are landing at 12:25 so we should be in Fulham about 14:00 I guess.

 

 

EMAIL…

From: Gotti Sigurdarson gotti@continentica.com

Subject: Re: You lied to me

Date: 27 July 2012 11:05

To: Juli712736@aol.com

 

Sorry I read our ticket wrong. We're landing at 13:45 in Gatwick so we'll be in Fulham around ca 16:00.

But I think you already have the travel documents since Kate emailed then to you.

Gotti

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

To: Deidre Osbourne <juli712736@aol.com>

Sent: Friday, 27 July 2012, 12:47

Subject: hey Deirdre

 

Hey Deirdre

 

I hope you are well and that you have had a productive time this week.

 

As for the holiday in Norway,

 

Isabella did her diary every second day, she practiced piano and it was lovely to have her visit.

She was really brave swimming in quite cold water with the rest of us.

We went blueberry and raspberry picking, and went for a couple of boat-rides (with life jackets) in mums small motorboat.

We also went for walks by the shore, there is a nice sculpture path along the shore, and we walked up a small mountain behind the summer house.

We mostly had quite good weather, a couple of rainy days and a few really sunny warm days too. Isabella seemed to really enjoy playing with the cats and she is so good with animals.

 

Isabella has been a really lovely holiday guest and she played very well with my niece and nephew.

 

She did forget her purse with the 35 pounds here in Norway so I told her Gotti could give her the money and I'll send her the purse.

 

And I would also like to say that there has been no lies, and no manipulations from our part, and no pushing of boundaries.

 

I have simply just offered her a trip to Norway, because YOU needed someone to take care of her, and because I thought Isabella would enjoy it, nothing more, nothing less.

Just a simple holiday in Norway, and making sure Isabella gets back and forth safely, and has a nice stay, which is the most important. I went through a lot of trouble to make this trip happen, and I also work hard.

 

I am sorry you don't see my efforts or intentions as being friendly and well wishing,

and that you absolutely don't appreciate my actions or me.

 

As for the flights : you wrote yourself in an email to me that it would be fine for her to come from the 18th-26th July, and that she could fly back alone on the 26th or 27th. so I booked the tickets on 18-27th., the exact dates you mentioned in your email.

 

I have never thought I was Isabella's parent and that is just the most ridicules thing I have ever heard!!!! 

Everything you said in your email to Gotti is completely wrong and makes me very angry, upset and I feel very used. I am very angry at the way you treat Gotti and myself, like we are some thugs that are trying to abduct your daughter. Like if this is all to our own advantage and our actions are selfish and manipulative!

 

It is really, really such a shame that you can't differentiate from me being loving and caring towards Isabella and me thinking I am her parent.

 

All I can say is that the trip to Norway was really great and she had a good time and she behaved well. 

 

There is nothing more to say really.

 

I wish you a great holiday in France !

 

kate xxx

 

 

 

EMAIL…

From: kate havnevik <katehavnevik@yahoo.com>

Subject: deirdre

To: "Deidre Osbourne" <juli712736@aol.com>

Date: Saturday, 28 July, 2012, 14:01

 

hi Deirdre

 

Can you please explain you very odd, unfriendly behavior?

 

We have been friends for 10 years and I think both me and Gotti deserve an explanation of your behavior towards us.

 

I have to remind you that it was you who called me and asked me if the offer to take Isabella to Norway was still on.

 

You also wrote in your email to me that 18.-26.july was ok and that she could also travel home alone on the 26. or 27.,   I didn't push the dates. I simply got the best flights on the dates you presented to me.

 

I know it must be hard to be away from each other, but we could have cancelled the trip if you were not comfortable with it.

I tried calling you, and I was even thinking of cancelling it myself as I thought it started becoming uncomfortable when you started accusing me of pushing boundaries. But I felt that should be your decision to cancel or not. I was also in London for several days minding Isabella before the trip taking her to Science museum with her friend ,  to tennis, picking her up from piano, practicing piano with her every day etc...

 

You agreed with Gotti that he could accompany Isabella home as he was gonna be in Norway, you even gave him a letter for the customs.

(you even suggested she could fly alone back to the UK)

Why does Isabella need to know about Gotti's work meetings? Is that important?

Why would Gotti talk to Isabella about his workmeeting?

 

Nothing has been done without your approval or without being run by you!

 

I just spent a week with your daughter, cooking for her, cleaning for her, playing with her, minding her, taking her out on various activities, I paid everything (my offer of course).

You cannot treat me like this!

I think we deserve an explanation after 10 years of minding Isabella, doing you various other favors, you have both come with us to Norway and Iceland and stayed with our families. We have been your friends.

 

Please explain yourself Deirdre, you cannot treat your friends like this.

 

You also forget something very important, ALL THE GOOD THINGS!

 

Kate

 

 

EMAIL…

From: "juli712736@aol.com" <juli712736@aol.com>

To: katehavnevik@yahoo.com

Sent: Sunday, 29 July 2012, 2:04

Subject: Re: have a good trip !

 

Thank-you so very much for your email. I'm having a short break and will reply to it from the 12th August onwards.

All good wishes,

Deirdre

 

 

EMAIL…

From: Gotti Sigurdarson gotti@continentica.com

Subject: Re: You lied to me

Date: 11 September 2012 13:49

To: Juli712736@aol.com

 

Hello Deirdre

Hope you are well.

 

I picked up Isabella yesterday, we went home and she did her homework and then went upstairs to practice piano. Then we had dinner and Isabella and Marion watched a film. I had to go to work at 7.

 

Thank you for the £30 you gave me on Sunday. It's really a bit too much, but I will accept it and use it for school. Thank you. Otherwise, I don't need any money for minding Isabella, I have always minded her because I want to and not for money.

 

*****

 

I do however wish you would clear up the air and explain this very odd and unfriendly email you sent me while I was in Norway in July.

 

I think both Kate and myself deserve an explanation as to why you'd say the things you said in that email... calling me a liar, and saying that Kate thinks she is Isabella's parent and me going along with it, that we are untrustworthy and manipulative. We really don't understand how or why you can say such things to us, about us.

 

We have been your friends for 10 years and as far as we are concerned we have always been there for you and Isabella, whenever and wherever we can.

 

I really don't want there to be any bad feelings between us, and I frankly can't see why there should have been any.

 

But you need to explain to me this email and why you said those things to me and about Kate. Talk to me and give me some explanation please. It's not fair to pretend like nothing ever happened or nothing was said.

 

This is of course entirely up to you, but I really think you should apologize to Kate for the things you said about her. It was not nice at all. It really hurt her very much. She has always been very kind to you and Isabella, don't forget that. She really does not deserve this.

 

I know your email was specifically addressed to me and not to Kate. But Kate and I care a lot about each other and we are very good and close friends, despite all the heartache and difficulties we've been through.

 

You told Kate you were going to write back to her after you were back from France, but she hasn't heard anything from you at all. I don't think that's fair. The minimum respect you could give us is at least explain yourself.

 

We don't know if this was some terrible misunderstanding, you having a breakdown or just a bad day, or if this is really what you think of us (which would be really sad). We of course hope something went askew here, and you maybe said things you now realize you shouldn't have said. But whatever it is/was... we need to know.

 

Regarding Isabella. You have to understand that both Kate and I have been around her (and you) ever since she was born, 10 years ago. Of course we have feelings for her, we love her and care for her very much. But that does not mean that either of us, Kate or myself, have ever thought or pretended to be her parent. We have always respected you as her mother. You even asked us to become her legal guardians in case anything would happen to you. That is a big responsibility, but we of course gladly accepted it, because we care about her. And I don't think any sane parent would ask anyone to take on that responsibility unless they were absolutely certain of their character.

 

We are still your friends, and we will always be there for Isabella... if that's what you want.

 

I hope you do the right thing and talk to us and explain what went on there, and let us know if this is really what you think of us. This is important Deirdre.

 

All the best,

 

Gotti